My mother doesn’t have any limits, she’s not like the normal embarrassing parent. She takes it to a whole new level.
If I’m out for too long during the middle of the day, she calls people I haven’t talked to in years. I had a friend who stabbed me in the back when I was in the 9th grade and I don’t really speak to her anymore. I’m done at school around 4:30 a couple days a week, sometimes there’s traffic and sometimes we have to stay at school a little longer (not detention, just how my school works). I’ve actually had it happen that I come straight home from school, and she’s already called 3 or 4 people I don’t really talk to. I’ve asked her to stop calling before, I’ve asked her especially not to call those people I don’t even speak to anymore. I don’t yell, I’ve tried to be an adult about it.
A couple of years ago, when all of my friends had blogs, she visited them. She read absolutely every one of them, got on them straight after school. She read the blogs of kids in my grade who I didn’t even know. She was constantly asking my siblings what they thought of the blogs and I couldn’t get one because I knew she’d read it. I actually had to ask my friend to add a password to her blog because my mom was reading it constantly. She stopped being my friend after that. I asked her politely to stop many times, not in a whiny or yelling voice or anything.
She’ll open the windows at home and yell personal things about me so the neighbors can hear. I live in an apartment building. When I was 13 and had just started my period, I threw the wrappers of the pads and stuff in the trash can in my room but I covered it up with something else like a paper afterward. She went through my trash. She’d start yelling, with the windows open, "YOU LEAVE YOUR WRAPPERS FROM YOUR PADS IN THE TRASH. FILTHY, YOU’RE ABSOLUTELY FILTHY." When I was around the same age, and I was having dinner with my sister and her boyfriend, she came home. She’d bought pads and threw them into my arms, with him sitting right across from me and he just tried to look away awkwardly and my mom winked at me.
She uses vulgar words such as "t*tties" to refer to breasts and would make rude comments towards my sexual development. Before I’d gotten my period, when I was 11, she went into my room and screamed at me that she was sure I had gotten my period and that I was just hiding it from her and that she demanded to know. She talked about how my sister had told her right away, and was throwing a tantrum like a small child. I said I hadn’t, then she started talking about how there was obviously something very wrong with me, that I was a very late bloomer and that she’d have to take me to the doctor and get me diagnosed with a severe illness, I think she was trying to get me to admit it but I hadn’t gotten it. That’s the least embarrassing sexual thing she’s done around me, though. When I was 13, she implied that I was having orgies regularly with my friend’s parents.
She makes me uncomfortable around my father. For around a month last year, she insisted that I was bulimic and insisted that I go to the bathroom with the door open. I refused to because she could see me because she was in the room across from the bathroom and said she wasn’t going to leave because she knew that I wanted her gone so that I could vomit. I refused to go to the bathroom for a few hours but I went into the bathroom to brush my teeth. Then she started screaming at my father to pull my pants down and "make me use the bathroom". I was 16, I haven’t vomited since I was 13 and had food poisoning.
She also thinks of odd punishments. Like one day, she yelled at me for no reason as I was trying to do my homework and picked a fight with me and I was in too bad of a mood to study. I just went to sleep and decided to get up early and study. She got mad that I wasn’t going to study right there and called me a bum, and said that my father was going to sleep in my room. I don’t see how that punishment is in any way whatsoever related to studying, and I’m 17. She said that I could either study right then and there (it was 12am) or my father would sleep in my room. I refused to go to bed and stayed up until around 3am because I thought they were being ridiculous, they just sat in my room and stared at me the whole time. I said that they were keeping me up and that I’d be getting a worse grade on my test the longer they kept me up but she said that all I had to do was let my father sleep in my room, on a mattress right next to my bed. My father snores incredibly loudly. Eventually they left, or I thought they did. When I got up, I saw that my mother had made my father sleep by the door of my room.
This is just some of the embarrassing stuff she’s done. She’s also verbally and emotionally abusive, she tells m
me I’m a c*nt. I’m too embarrassed to list some of the things she’s said to me. How do I get her to stop?? This is humiliating
